Stillbirth – a very upsetting topic indeed… But it needs to talked about so that you can cope with the grief.
Thank God, I’ve never had to go through this, so why all of a sudden am I blogging about this?
Last week, where I work, I was asked by a male member of staff to attend to a lady. She was very tearful and wanted something to stop her milk supply. My initial thoughts after a few minutes of talking to her was that she was tearful because she had developed very painful engorgement of the breasts (due to her milk supply)… But as we talked more, we got deeper into conversation. She revealed that she had a stillbirth a week ago and today she had to register the birth… The engorgement was painful and yes, she wanted something to treat it.. But actually, she just wanted somebody to talk to… To break down to… To release all the emotions to… And I happened to be that person.
I sometimes forget the emotional side of dealing with patients; the person on the other side of the counter; the person you give advice to and treat. There can be so much to do in one day… You see so many patients/customers… Today was truely a reminder to myself that I can make a difference in someone’s life… And also, a reminder of the blessings upon me.
Stillbirth and miscarriage can be devastating for the baby’s parents (& their families).. Not many will choose to talk about it… However, if you have been through it or am going through it, you are not alone. There are many support groups out there. Some groups are run by parents who have experienced stillbirth. Some are run by healthcare professionals such as specialist midwives and baby loss support workers.
If you happen to land on this page of my blog whilst searching for info. on this topic, all I wish to share with you is a big mahussive hug and tell you that somebody out there loves you… X