Category Archives: Love And Marriage

I Love My Wife

I just want to put this in our diary, in case I cannot in future say this for whatever reasons.

I, NRIC 80XXXXXY, Tan Allan, truly, deeply, madly love my wife, past, present and future. Even though I do not say this everyday, it does not means that I do not care about you. I want you to know that, everything I do is for the better of our future, just like the things that you do right now, taking great care of our children.

I want you to remember that being a mum who sacrifice her career and looking after the children is noble and great, and the advantages are only reflected when they grow older.

I love my wife and I want you to know that I did not love you for your body, but rather your inner self that complement me as a person. You think of my interest everytime and constantly reminds me (some called it nagging : lol) just like I do the same for you. Your inner beauty really gives me the assurance that you will be a great wife, mother and daughter.

Given the chance to turn back time, with all the possible girlfriends, I would still walk the path that we walked before and choose you to share my life with, only thing different would be I would make you feel more important and give you much more than you deserve.

I am no poet, hence you will not see this blog post in a book that will be on Top of New York Times, but rest assure that, if there is a Top ranking for I Love My Wife in the search engines, I will make sure I am ranked number 1!! I love my wife more than anything in this world.

80 Things About DnA – Revisited And Updated!!!

1) We have 2 beautiful children – Chloe born 4th Feb 2009, Andre born 25th Aug 2010
2) We are approaching our 3rd wedding Anniversary (1st July 2007)… Leather
3) We have known each other since June 1998. Oh my, that’s nearly 12 years!
4) We dated from 2nd July 2003, 22:04 hrs!
5) My current jobs include catering, child-minding, domestic cleaner, dish washer, laundrette.. Basically, a perfect housewife?!?!? Lol

Where Art Thou Valentino?!

This year my Valentino is in camp, serving his reservist!!! He left the house just after 6am, and due to his ‘project’ and his allocated shift, I won’t see him until 2 full days later or even more days later (not including today!!)

Oh well, nevermind, atleast I have my 2 other darlings with me!!!

Like someone said, everyday should be our valentines day… And rightly so! Hupps needs to just work extra hard to buy me gifts every day!! Hehe.. Can’t wait 😉

This year, made some heart cookies… Chloe loved them, but Hupps found it too sweet! Maybe cos he thought he was too sweet?!?! *Vomit* :p

Had my fave sushi/sashimi and cake last night with Hupps whilst the kids slept & mama out at a dinner… Nice! Will be busy whilst Hupps is not around, so will update more as & when.

Are You Mary Or Martha?

My Dearest Sister sent me an email recently and it came at a great time because at times things can just get on top of you… Recently, my Hupps is doing his reservist and I feel as though there is a lot to do whenever he is not around! So yeah, great timing!

It is taken from “Heart Reflections Devotional” by Nanette Kinkade and some from my sister’s email!

“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith. (Galatians 6:9,10).

It is a new day, and as the foggy vision of sleepiness clears, the mountain of clothes to be laundered looms into view. Then come the thoughts of floors that need mopping, furniture that needs dusting, and that pie you promised to bake. Not to mention, of course the whole routine required to get the kids off to school. It seems that before your feet ever touch the floor, you’re tired again.

Sometimes it’s the menial tasks of everyday life that can take the most out of women. Perhaps because of its repetitive nature. Or maybe because our efforts are not always noticed. Not even paid. It is here that Satan hopes to defeat us–to distract us from the proper perspective, which (as in all things) is still found in Christ.

For Jesus Christ knows what it is to serve an inattentive and ungrateful world. The King of all creation actually washed His disciples’ feet. He died for people who didn’t even like Him. What an honor, then, it is for us women to be able to serve others in the same capacity as Christ. Whether it’s wiping little noses or cleaning off countertops, the more things we have to do, the more opportunities we have to bring Him honor. Though no one else may see or care, God does. And He receives each effort as a gift of thanks for the incredible sacrifice He gave us–Christ himself.

Father, What a wonderful calling you have given women to be able to serve in so many ways. Free me, Lord, from the sin of comparison and complaining, and instead fill me with a grateful heart that sees the best in every circumstance. Help me to remember that in everything I do–even in the smallest things–I do them for Your glory. Help me, too, to hold steady, knowing that the efforts produced by Your Spirit in me are never in vain.”

“You’ve heard about the story of Martha and Mary right? The two sisters, Mary was sat at Jesus’s feet, listening to him. Martha was busy busy preparing food for Jesus and his 12 disciples; Martha got angry because she didnt have any help at all, and Jesus told Martha off because she was in a mood. Many people use that as an example and say that those who are Martha’s miss out on so much, like spending time with Jesus [what Mary was doing]… thus missing out on a lot of great opportunities. But I’ve heard other things: that it’s ok to be a Martha–the doer. Things do get done, if it wasn’t for Martha, Jesus and his 12 disciples would be hungry for the rest of the night.”

I used to be annoyed that I was the one doing, what I felt, everything…. But looking at the bigger picture, we all have our own roles and yeah – I’ve finally realised that it’s ok to be the ‘Doer’! And like my sister had pointed out to me, I have been a Martha all my life… But actually, I don’t mind it anymore… 🙂 Ofcos, it’s good to be appreciated by others, but not everyone will always appreciate it – but at least I feel happy, so all’s good 🙂 One thing I do need to learn is to have a break and ask for help – something which my husband always tells me! “Take a break.. take a rest!” I suppose, it wouldn’t be me, if I decided to be Mary!

Thought I’d share the email with you all x

The Blind Side – Inspiring And Touching Movie

Was watching this movie (The Blind Side) on the plane. Found it to be really touching and full of emotions.

I always like movies based on a true story, and especially if it is 100% factual, so this movie is something that I have to watch, even though my biological clock was telling me to sleep.

What I like about the movie is the humbling touch that the leading female character gave to that young boy. Absolutely magical and it makes the difference in that kid’s life.

Totally must watch!!! I give it a 5/5 stars!!

What I really learn and re-instill into my mind from watching the movie is, I/we need to be living the way the Tuohys are in the movie, in the near future.

Morale of story: Give if you can afford to.