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General blog posts.

Happy Father’s Day…

Dearest Hupps,

Happy Father’s Day… I know I don’t say it out aloud but it’s there in my heart…

Thank you for your love (as a husband and as a father to our beautiful children); thank you for providing for our needs; thank you for being there as our support and pillar; thank your for everything…

I know, at times, I neglect you after a long and tiring day with the kids and chores; I don’t appreciate your positions; I nag and am negative; I expect so much off you, when you already give so much for/to me… but I promise to give you the space, for you to be yourself and to constantly remind myself to make the time – for each other and to love each other… I/we love you!

A Spoonful Of Sugar….

Like the song goes – ‘A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down…’ Yip, good ol’ Mary Poppins! Just like when things/kids test your patience, and there’s so much to do and things go/taste foul – it’s great knowing that you can just gulp it down cos it’s not all that bad with a spoonful of sugar!!! – (kind words, hugs and acknowledgement from loved ones, friends etc, waking up to the great surroundings called life!)…

Currently, life is sweet and yip, trying to lead a relatively simple or should I say, simpler life – so yeah – trying to live my life!

Gosh, it HAS been some time since I updated my blog re: the children and ourselves… So her we go! Well, in short….

1) Chloe has hit the terrible two’s…. BAD!! There’s no more chilled-out Chloe…. just Crazy Chloe who screams when she doesn’t get her way! We’ve had to buy and use the cane… Naughty room…. But sometimes, these just don’t work either! But I must say, what does generally calm her down is when we say “Do you want to see outside?” And then she stops screaming/crying and we hold her to look out the window! After that, it may result in normality or more demands/screaming!

2) Chloe now sleeps in a toddler’s bed with a small safety railing to protect her from falling…. Great thing is that Andre has moved out of our bedroom to sleep in the same room as Chloe! Yay!! Thought we would have major issues, but both enjoying each other’s company, chatting away, crying away together… but alls good…. They both seem to sleep well together, so yeah, that’s good… And nope, Chloe hasn’t fallen out of her bed… Yet!!!

3) Andre has started to crawl (but will only crawl to you if you are a few steps away… if you are further, he’ll just winge/cry and won’t crawl!), started to pull himself up… getting more curious but suffering from separation anxiety at the moment!…

4) Chloe needs more attention nowadays – esp when she sees us giving attention to Andre… Sister jealousy kicking in me thinks!

5) Proper dribbler our Andre! Bibs galore on the washing poles every other day! 5 teeth showing now….

6) Daze still a stay at home mum (SAHM)…. Nothing much to report here that’s too interesting!

7) Allan, also nothing exciting to report! Yip, we’re boring – so much for living the life eh!!! lol ;p

The ADCA clan!
Can’t think of anything else at the mo… so night all!!!

Daze
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Big, Small, Big, Small… Which One?

Nope, I’m not gambling on a casino table nor am I contemplating having anything enlarged or made smaller….!

For the past few days, weeks and months – this topic has come to my mind so many times… It just comes and goes… Do I want a big or small family?! And just for your info, nope, DnA are not trying for baby number three and nope, I am not preggers!

I always wanted 3 children, at least… However, now that I have 2 (or as I put it, a family ticket of 4) – I can’t imagine what it would be like with a third child…. Andre is now just over 8 months and as I sit here thinking about another addition – can I or do I want to go through the whole saga of sleepless nights, nappies, colic, crying etc?!?!? Already with 2 kids, I feel that there is alot to do! I feel as though I am continually washing baby clothes (esp bibs, as Andre goes through enough, since he has been dribbling due to teething since 3.5 months!), disturbed sleep (Andre still sometimes needs feeding and Chloe may also suddenly need mummy and daddy in the wee hours of the morning)… Sometimes, they are so clingy and dependent on me, that I feel I lose my own identity and have less time for myself! Everything is about them and my whole day, week, month revolves around them… I feel the sheer responsibility of having to provide for them, look after them, make sure they are clean and fed well… In addition to all that, how would my body cope?!?!? Chloe was born 3.25 kg, Andre was 4.14kg… The skin on my tummy would surely sag to the max should the next baby be any bigger!!!

But having said all that – I come from a large immediate family.. I have 4 sisters and 1 brother and although, at times, things used to be chaotic at home – debates, mess, clutter, noise etc… Thinking back, I loved it! I loved the fact that it was cosy! I probably complained back then tho! Now that some are married and have kids – family gatherings are great! The hustle and bustle!!

Allan has just 1 sister…. And sometimes, I feel the atmosphere is not the same.. It’s quiet… Maybe too quiet?!?! Esp during big events….

Anyways, just thought I’d share it… Even if I did want another, maybe I couldn’t conceive anyways! So, what’s the point of thinking or worrying about it… Right?!?!?

“Don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own…” Matthew 6:34

Daze
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Reflections…

It’s been awhile since I heard from some friends… But then again, there are some friends where I hear from often, no matter the distance… There are new friends and there are old friends… Some are good and some are bad…

I’ve been reflecting recently… Maybe it’s because I will be leaving this place soon and going back to my former life? Will things be the same? Look forward and never look back? What is friendship and how do we define it?

Here is an interesting article which I read… and I thought it would be good to share…

“One of my professors once told us to diversify our own personalities, and today I am very grateful to him for his advice, because I make a conscious effort to accept someone without judgments. These days, we name almost any relation as a “friend.” Do we really think what kind of friend we are to another, or what kind of friends we are actually looking for?

To me, friendship is a relationship where both individuals can have a great time together, with whom there are less ego fights, with whom I can have open conversations, and who will prove loyal. A good friend always appreciates the good qualities in a friend, tries to mend the negative qualities, and encourages an honest and open relation. A good friend is a sense of inspiration and motivation. Good friends learn from each others’ mistakes.

Based on my experiences, I have explored the different types of friends I have found in my life, and what we can expect from each of these types.

1. Professional Friends – This group is for professional networking. At the beginning of the relationship, most of the conversations are about topics of mutual interest in specific professions, and then it can gradually take a more personal turn. In this friendship, the expectation is to learn, exchange information, ideas, concepts and grow professionally. A lot of these friendships are formed in professional organizations like Economic Club of New York, Project Management Institute, and 100 Women in Hedgefunds. Most of these relationships grow deeper when both individuals can provide professional expertise and insights. We can find these friends at workplace also. Sometimes, they take the form of mentors, or someone we can count on in future. As we grow professionally, this group tends to increase more. This is where professional and business etiquette must be practiced.

2. Social Friends – This group of friendship is formed in social service clubs like Rotary International, Lions Clubs, and Kiwanis International. This group is conscious about social issues and also wants to network in a less formal setting than the professional friends circle. This group of friends volunteers their time, money and efforts to work on social causes, and get public recognition for the same. The budding professionals can take leadership roles to take and execute responsibilities, and to promote and sell their skills. We can also find a group like this in major corporations like Asian Heritage Network group of Citigroup.

3. Deep/Emotional Friends – Friends in this group are very few. This group of friends tends to have an intellectual appetite, but usually have perceived and experienced life through various relationships. This friends group will be there to support us during the ups and downs of life. Sometimes, we can find these friendships between married women, mother and daughter, close sisters. These are the friends who we will grow old with.

4. Intellectual Friends – This group has a very curious and intellectual mindset. We can talk about anything without being embarrassed. Friends in this group are very few. The difference between the Emotional and Intellectual friends is that the latter understand situations logically without mixing feelings. Usually this group of friends is considerate, matured, well-developed and have their own fulfilled lives. Sometimes, these groups of friends are so busy in their own pursuits and quests of life that they might not be able to offer the time, but when they do, it is mutually fulfilling.

5. Self-Actualized Friends – Friends in this group are the perfect combination and are very rare to find. These friends have an amazing appetite for intellectual conversation, are open to discuss about life experiences, take care of their own needs, have less complaints about life in general and respect others views of life. In addition to that, they will love to invest time to grow emotionally, professionally, intellectually, socially, and spiritually, know how to laugh and enjoy life also. These friends will not try to change others, but will appreciate and respect the differences. Probably, we will grow old with this group of friends. The friends in this group volunteer to give us feedback and advice about different aspects of life, not only because they care about us, but want positive things to happen in our lives.

6. Buddy Friends – This is a very informal group of friends, who meet informally to have a great time together. A lot of Meet Up groups fall under this category. This is the group who are usually college students, high school students, and singles. These friends usually go to the clubs, bars, happy hours, discos. There is not much intellectual connection, professional connection, because the people in this group still does not have the need to explore more serious matters of life, or might not feel the comfort to seek advice on any issues.

7. School Friends (Memory Revisiting) – There are a lot of friends in this group. If we have not kept in touch, most of them are acquaintances at this stage. Most likely we have changed, since we last saw them and they have changed also. We will meet them at reunions, alumni events. Most of the conversations are nostalgic and about the “good old days.””

(Written by Rajyeshwari Ghosh)

Daze xxx

80 Things About DnA – Revisited And Updated!!!

1) We have 2 beautiful children – Chloe born 4th Feb 2009, Andre born 25th Aug 2010
2) We are approaching our 3rd wedding Anniversary (1st July 2007)… Leather
3) We have known each other since June 1998. Oh my, that’s nearly 12 years!
4) We dated from 2nd July 2003, 22:04 hrs!
5) My current jobs include catering, child-minding, domestic cleaner, dish washer, laundrette.. Basically, a perfect housewife?!?!? Lol
6)

Some More

I dropped off Chloe to playgroup/school this morning… As normal, I would give her a little snack along the way… Today, I gave it slightly later, so, upon arriving at school, she was still munching away..

Teacher: Do you feed Chloe enough food?
Me: Why do you say that?
Teacher: She’s always so hungry!
Me: She’s always eating!!
Teacher: We asked her whether she drinks milk and she said yes.. Yesterday, she finished her snacks you packed and there were lots, but she just kept saying ‘Some more, some more’!!
Me: *Thinking in my mind… That’s my girl!!*….. I then went on to explain her routine to the teacher…

Oh my, for those who know our little Chloe, whose tummy is not so little… she loves to eat! Sometimes, it worries me that she eats so much?!?!? Maybe she has worms – but it can’t be, cos she’s not losing weight! But then, I shouldn’t need to worry because she’s not obese either!! She just loves food!! Good really!

Chloe’s routine:
7am Wake-up, 200ml milk
8am Breakfast
If there’s school: 9:20am snack, 9:30am school starts, then 11:30am snack at school
If there’s no school: 10am snack
12 midday Lunch
1-3pm Nap time
3:30pm Snack
5pm Dinner
6pm Bath
6:30pm 200ml milk
7pm Bedtime

Then the whole process repeats itself!!! Seems ok, right?!?!?

Daze x

It’s Weird How…

This evening I went for a full body Swedish massage… Done a few in UK, and only once in Singa… Tonight would be my second time (in a long time) for this type of massage here… Thought it would be a good idea, as my body was aching due to the many months of looking after Andre… He’s only 5.5 months and already weighs over 9.5kg!!

I totally forgot how the feeling was! I would describe it like a session at the chiropracters (vigorous and bracing) and a session at a relaxing spa (slow and gentle)! The massage therapists used some sort of massage oil to facilitate smooth, gliding strokes.. Then there was a bit of kneading, friction, stretching and tapping! It was at this point that my mind started to wander! It’s weird how I then thought of myself as some sort of dough on a worktop – being keaded, thrown in the air, some water/oil added to provide some sort of smoothness etc!

As I flipped back and fore between relaxed and embraced mode – my mind would wander even more! At one point, the massage therapist ‘sat’ on my back (well not literally!) so that she could target my back.. the pressure she used on my shoulders and upper back was quite firm, to achieve the deeper muscle massage!… It’s weird how I thought that my breastmilk would all squirt out!!! Lol!! It didn’t ofcos!!!

Then when I was lying flat on my tummy, she did this crazy stretch, where she lifts your leg upwards towards your head and diagonally towards the opposite shoulder (if you’re understanding what I’m trying to explain!?)… I then thought about ‘what if I or someone let out a massive fart?!?!?’ I mean, it’s natural, when you’re relaxed – these things may happen.. and OFCOS, I didn’t do that!!!!

Anyways, it’s weird how you have these weird and wonderful thoughts that make you giggle, in the most normal situations!

Daze x

When I Was Just A Little Girl, I Asked My Mother, “What Will I Be?”

Like the song goes… When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother, “what will I be?” ————— I never did ask my mother that qn! But what probably did happen, is my mother ask herself what would her daughters and son be!!

That’s the qn that is going through my mind at the moment! I wonder what my children will grow up to be!

For the past few nights, Andre, just before falling into deep sleep will hummmmmmmmmmmmm in a monotonous tone – like a low pitched cat or someone chanting… His eyes would be shut and he wouldn’t move but this tone would last for ages… Randomly, in the middle of the night, as he tries to self-settle after waking up from his sleep cycle, I would wake up to the monotonous low toned humming…. I wonder whether he will be a backing singer?!?!?!

As for Chloe, since she has been able to undo zips and get out of her gro-bag, she will sometimes surprise me by taking it off! So, we check her just before we sleep. I did that just tonight… Low and behold, she had taken her gro-bag off and was lying in her cot, with just her PJ top and diapers… Her legs and tummy were exposed as her PJ top had risen and she was cold… God forbid, I sure hope that she doesn’t end up being a stripper!!! Lol

Daze x