Stillbirth – Counting My Blessings

Stillbirth – a very upsetting topic indeed… But it needs to talked about so that you can cope with the grief.

Thank God, I’ve never had to go through this, so why all of a sudden am I blogging about this?

Last week, where I work, I was asked by a male member of staff to attend to a lady. She was very tearful and wanted something to stop her milk supply. My initial thoughts after a few minutes of talking to her was that she was tearful because she had developed very painful engorgement of the breasts (due to her milk supply)… But as we talked more, we got deeper into conversation. She revealed that she had a stillbirth a week ago and today she had to register the birth… The engorgement was painful and yes, she wanted something to treat it.. But actually, she just wanted somebody to talk to… To break down to… To release all the emotions to… And I happened to be that person.

I sometimes forget the emotional side of dealing with patients; the person on the other side of the counter; the person you give advice to and treat. There can be so much to do in one day… You see so many patients/customers… Today was truely a reminder to myself that I can make a difference in someone’s life… And also, a reminder of the blessings upon me.

Stillbirth and miscarriage can be devastating for the baby’s parents (& their families).. Not many will choose to talk about it… However, if you have been through it or am going through it, you are not alone. There are many support groups out there. Some groups are run by parents who have experienced stillbirth. Some are run by healthcare professionals such as specialist midwives and baby loss support workers.

If you happen to land on this page of my blog whilst searching for info. on this topic, all I wish to share with you is a big mahussive hug and tell you that somebody out there loves you… X

Support groups:
sands.org.uk
The Miscariage Association
GOV.UK: What to do if someone dies

Minimalism… In Need Of A Lifestyle Change And A Motivational Push!

As the title states – I’m in need of a (potential) lifestyle change and a massive motivational push, whilst thinking about being an entrepreneurial stay-at-home-mum (SAHM).

There is just too much in my library (brain) – and I feel that it is clouding my judgement of what exactly is important to me, and what makes me truly happy. I watched this documentary called Minimalism and the main point that came across to me was trying to find more with less.

It’s a pretty good documentary – it brings up some good points. I am married and have 3 kids, so how will a minimalistic lifestyle work for me? Realistically, I am not going to throw all my furniture out, give my TV away and leave 1 shirt, 3 pairs of socks etc. Nor am I going to tell the kids to pick 1 toy to keep! Even if I wanted to, my kids would throw an eppy-fit! The goal of minimalism to me is not to entirely remove the desire for happiness from our lives, but to redirect it. You can pursue the desire for happiness through, for example, love, faith, compassion, justice, contribution rather than material possessions.

I love buying things. I am career driven. I want more and bigger. But I realise now that when we get what we want/buy what we want, the happiness and fulfillment is only temporary. The reason for this happiness is probably because when we get what we want for that brief period of time, we no longer “want” and this leads to peace and happiness.

The question I ask myself is “will it add value?”
“Does the possession add value in my life?”
“Does the statement add value to the conversation?”
“Does what I do add value to the situation?”

As I sit here typing on my laptop and thinking about my path ahead, I am grateful for what I have – health, love, family, friends and faith. I need to remove the “fear factor” of uncertainty and “what-ifs”, and just go for it…

Egg-free and Dairy-free Cooking

I am not sure whether I did mention – but when my oldest daughter Chloe was born and we started to wean her off breast-milk, she had an allergy to cow’s milk.. then as we tried new foods one by one, we noticed more allergies to certain foods.

Being all new to motherhood, and then these allergies to certain foods surfacing – life suddenly became more complicated than what I expected. Especially when I was not an expert at cooking and I was at that time living in Singapore… You could not get dairy or egg-free alternatives.

Fast forward a few years and I’m back in UK. And the choices of alternatives is great.

A few months back my older 2 kids had blood tests done – IgE allergy testing to a range of foods. The outcome was amazing as it had shown that they had out-grown their allergies to certain foods. Although there is a clinically significant response to cow’s milk, they can now eat egg, seafood, citrus foods, berries… All of a sudden, I was lost! I had only known how to cook foods with limited ingredients! I only knew certain sections of the supermarket because our food shopping always revolved around the allergies. After 7 years of allergy-free cooking, I had too much choice!

My youngest one has yet to be tested as she is only 2 years old. But egg makes her come out in an eczemous rash… so I still try to follow an egg-free and dairy-free diet for her.

Just to share with you, some of the things they helped me cook today:

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Fusilli pasta in Egg-free, Milk-free Carbonara sauce with lactose-free grated cheese.

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Dairy-free apple crumble with custard.

Fluval Spec 19L Desktop Glass Aquarium

Our new glass desktop fish tank – the Fluval Spec 19l.

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When I wanted to get a fish tank, I knew nothing about it – what equipment was needed, what the specs meant. I was and still am, a true beginner! My main priorities was that it had to fit on the windowsill! So size was important as space was the limiting factor. After much searching, I came across the glass desktop Fluval Spec 19, which has become a wonderful tank for myself and the kids as we adventure deeper into our new hobby.

It is a little expensive at £80 (not including fish, food, gravel and decorations!), considering I was only looking to spend no more than £50 all in! I mean, I didn’t know if the kids would still be interested in it after a week, nor did I know whether the fish would still be alive!!!

The tank came in a reasonably sized box, which wasn’t too heavy to carry. It has everything you need – an all-in-one! It comes with a circulation pump with output nozzle, safe low voltage transformer, foam filtration block sponge with handle, activated carbon insert filter bag, Biomax insert filter bag, aquarium lid and LED lighting system. 20170602_134619

It was pretty easy to set up too! What I loved most about the Fluval Spec 19 was that the filter media and pump are housed in a different section to the main display. The main display is separated by some glass. This allows the appearance of a bigger tank, with the filtration system hidden from view. Because, the filtration system is separated, you don’t have to put your fingers/hands in the main display – I’m petrified of the fish touching me!!! In addition, the corners of the aquarium were covered with curved aluminium. I’ve seen tanks whereby the silicone joints have become stained and because of the aluminium, this will keep my tank looking all new!
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The pump has an adjustable flow rate. The water flows through the top, then travels downwards through the filter media. It then reaches the pump which then pumps the water out through the outlet tube and through the outlet nozzle and the whole cycle repeats itself.20170602_141814

The aquarium comes with a frosted plexiglas lid but the middle portion is open to the air. For me, this is not ideal, just incase things fall into the tank? In addition, my aquarium is on the windowsill – therefore, more likely to have algae growth.

The aquarium comes with a low voltage but yet powerful and efficient 37 LED lighting system. The 7500K high luminosity LEDs are suitable for aquatic plants. There are 3 position ON/OFF switch (bright daytime, deep blue night-time and off). I have not used the LED lighting system as there is enough light at the windowsill.

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We Want A Pet!

About a month ago, my two eldest children say to me “Can we have a pet?” I have tried to withhold from agreeing to this for a while now because, 1) You need to spend time, care and love with your pet – something which I felt, I may not be able to give – or even give equally, 2) Costs, 3) If we go on holiday, who would look after it..

Anyhows, we ended up agreeing to some pet fish. After agreeing to this – there was then the issue of which fish tank and where to put the fish tank!

The house is small. Everywhere you look, there is something in each corner and along each wall. My youngest child Belle is 2 years of age. She is at the age whereby she is curious; she puts things in her mouth; she uses her toy cooking utensils to hit things like a drum; she opens and squirts creams; she pulls all the tissue out of the packs…. Then there’s my son, Andre – whom as a boy, loves to do boyish things – like kick a football in the house; jump off the sofas! I’m sure you get the picture. There is simply no safe place to put this fish tank! But my kids were sad, especially Chloe (who is the most responsible one!). So as a parent, we always try to make them happy!

After much deliberation – we found the location – the windowsill!

I’m Back!

Oh my, has it really been that long? It only felt like yesterday…

I can’t really pin-point what made me end up on my blog site after so long; why I stopped writing in the first place; why I want to start writing again! Whatever it is, I’m glad I am back…

Looking back through the last few posts I wrote, I wonder if there are still those friends and readers who still follow me… Still periodically look at my updates, hoping that I will resurface. Only time will tell eh!

Like I used to, I sit at my laptop. But today, the difference is, I am surrounded by 3 children! The last few posts that were written on this blog, DnA had just had our first child.

Let me introduce to you Chloe, Andre and Belle.

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Supercharge Your Social Campaign

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Celebrities, businesses and even the U.S. State Department have bought bogus Facebook likes, Twitter followers or YouTube viewers from offshore “click farms,” where workers tap, tap, tap the thumbs up button, view videos or retweet comments to inflate social media numbers.

Since Facebook launched almost 10 years ago, users have sought to expand their social networks for financial gain, winning friends, bragging rights and professional clout. And social media companies cite the levels of engagement to tout their value.

But an Associated Press examination has found a growing global marketplace for fake clicks, which tech companies struggle to police. Online records, industry studies and interviews show companies are capitalizing on the opportunity to make millions of dollars by duping social media.

For as little as a half cent each click, websites hawk everything from LinkedIn connections to make members appear more employable to Soundcloud plays to influence record label interest.

“Anytime there’s a monetary value added to clicks, there’s going to be people going to the dark side,” said Mitul Gandhi, CEO of seoClarity, a Des Plaines, Ill., social media marketing firm that weeds out phony online engagements.

Italian security researchers and bloggers Andrea Stroppa and Carla De Micheli estimated in 2013 that sales of fake Twitter followers have the potential to bring in $40 million to $360 million to date, and that fake Facebook activities bring in $200 million a year.

As a result, many firms, whose values are based on credibility, have entire teams doggedly pursuing the buyers and brokers of fake clicks. But each time they crack down on one, another, more creative scheme emerges. …….

Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/05/buy-facebook-likes_n_4544800.html

Amazing Couple Dance Done Perfectly!

Found this video randomly on facebook and youtube. This is way too cool. I mean when we used to watch Step Up and Step Up 2 and when we were watching it, my hands and legs will involuntarily move slightly as if they were moving to the beat of the songs and copying the dancers..

The movies were amazing, and the dancers in the show, simply too awesome.

This couple dance is simply awesome presented by Urban Dance Camp

National Identity And Social Roles

Today is Singapore’s 46th birthday, it’s national day and 46 years of independence.

I was involved in a celebration with various people in the community and many grassroots leaders along with our prime minister. It was also at the same time that I received news about some serious rioting in various parts of UK, where the police were undermined, undermanpowered, and not well respected by the public.

At that point of time, mixed feelings ran wild inside me, especially when I was singing SG national anthem and reciting the pledge.

Here in Singapore we are celebrating our national identity and proud to be a citizen, part of the living community.

There in UK I was thinking of my family in UK, particularly London, whether they r affected by the chaotic situation.

Just hope that the situation will turn for the better.

Anyways Happy Birthday Singapore.